An easy word to say, not such an easy word to live out.
The thing with human beings is that we are incredibly, beautifully flawed. We are also so very unique and different in our own ways. Sometimes we are able to find others who are weirdly flawed in the same ways as us and we make them a part of our own personal tribe of friends.
Then life happens.
There are ups and downs and you support each other
through the good and the bad. You love each other through the break ups, the miscarriages, the divorces, the job losses, the health declines, the loss of loved ones. You rejoice with each other through the weddings, the birth of babies, the buying of new homes, the new jobs, the remissions, and the opportunities.
We spend so much of our time and energy with these people. So when something happens and they no longer are a part of tribe, it can deeply wound us.
Forgiveness seems like an impossible and nasty word when it comes to YOU having to be the one to give it to another.
But it truly is like setting yourself free when you are able to overcome your own pride and pain, and are able to forgive that person for whatever it is that brought this whole thing on.
I think the hardest thing about forgiveness is that people often do not understand what it means to forgive. When you forgive, you are not giving that person a “get out of jail free card”. They have done what they’ve done and the past cannot be changed. Forgiveness is saying I recognize what you have done, I no longer will allow my anger/pain from it to take over my soul, and I free myself and you from these thoughts because I am at peace.
Who are you holding hostage in your mind that you need to set free?
If we are being honest here, it is not the other person who is necessarily being held like a prisoner…it is yourself.
Find a way to live out that forgiveness, and be free.
God never intended for us to live a life as a prisoner of our own minds—set yourself free from that which holds you down.