“The righteous shall move onward and forward; those with pure hearts shall become stronger and stronger.”-Job 17:9
Why is it so hard to let go of people?
They choose to walk out of our lives. Or do something that requires us to walk out of theirs. Or we realize the relationship is totally toxic so we have to try to get out now before it destroys the both of us.
Letting go may be necessary, but it’s not easy.
I remember hearing a sermon once that had to do with purity. The person explained that having sex with someone was like gluing two pieces of wood together. When it’s not your spouse and you break up, it’s like pulling those two pieces apart. You may be able to separate them, but those two pieces will never be the same again. They may have pieces of one another stuck to each other and they are left forever changed.
That sermon reminds me very much of what it is like to lose a friendship as well.
You get to know each other well and become “stuck together like glue” and when the friendship ends, the two of you are both left scarred. Left with the memories of your time spent together, and the longer the friendship-the greater the damage.
This is why letting go is hard. You’ve got pieces of them stuck in your heart, and that is incredibly painful.
But, God. But, Grace.
He heals all wounds, and as that sermon explained to me, He’s got a sander.
He sands down the extra pieces so that we can live without the constant reminder of the pain. He sands it down so we can let go and heal.
It does not mean that we go back to being the exact same person we were before-we’ve been broken and sanded down, and due to do that we will be forever changed. Though now, it does not hurt as bad.
I thank God for His Grace because trying to let go of certain friendships/relationships has been so hard.
But, thanks to God I think I’m finally ready to let go.