Addicted to Comparison.

“For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.” -Galatians 1:10


Comparison is the thief of joy, right?

But we choose over and over again to have that joy stolen but comparing our lives to the lives of others.

I will admit, I am pretty addicted to comparison (if that is even a real thing).

I have to stop myself in my tracks all the time because I am comparing myself to others.  These comparisons are leaving me miserable, feeling inadequate, and pretty much feeling like a loser.

For example, most of my friends are getting married and having babies. It is beautiful and amazing, and something I hope to experience someday but I KNOW that it is not my time for this.

But yet, I still compare.

I get anxiety when people ask me when I am going to follow suite like my friends. I feel inadequate going on with enjoying my twenties while everyone else is having their own family. I feel weird constantly being the third wheel. Honestly, I feel like a loser most of the time having everyone talk about their pregnancies and marriages while I am just over here cuddling my dog. It was almost like guilt that I was not doing these things that others were doing.


It took some prayer a few months ago and talking to my parents to remind myself that it just was not my time for those things in my life and that it was okay. My parents even said that they never wanted that life for me.  They wanted me to get my education, have an amazing career, be a happy, independent, twenty or thirty something for a while, and then meet the right guy at the right time (when it was meant to happen) and have that part of my life. They did not have that themselves but they wanted it for me. It is not that there was anything wrong with that lifestyle, it just was not the time for me at 24.

& God had to remind me that He gave me those people as parents for a reason and that even though they’re a little crazy sometimes, they know what is best for me.

What was best for me was to realize that I did not have to be like others to have an amazing life full of joy.

So whether you are a guy or gal who got married young and started having a family right away or you are still out there waiting for that life. Whether you went to college/trade school or are envious of those who did. Whether you live in a mansion or a little place on the side of the road.

Believe and know that the grass is just as beautiful on your side as it may seem on the other. God made us all unique for a reason, and I know He does not make any mistakes. ❤


One thought on “Addicted to Comparison.

  1. Great article Kristin! Compassion definitely cannot demurely steal your joy. I too at times find myself comparing myself as wife, mom, and woman. I too have to remind myself that we are all wonderfully and uniquely made for a purpose. Continue to enjoy life in your current season! ~Kerry

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