“For the Lord God is a sun and shield; The Lord will give grace and glory; No good thing will He withhold From those who walk uprightly.” Psalm 84:11.
For the unmarried, patiently waiting ladies out there, this one is for you:
I know what it is like to feel like you are the outcast, the only one with the naked ring finger, the one who always has to third wheel it, the only person at work who is not a “Mrs.”, the one who sits out during the slow songs at weddings.
You are the one who stands by as you watch all of your friends find the love of their lives. You attend all of the engagement parties, you help arrange all of the bridal showers and bachelorette parties, you help with the details of the weddings, and then you walk down the aisle and stand by your friends’ sides as they commit to their Prince Charming for the rest of their lives.
Then soon after you find out that your friends are having a baby! You scream with excitement and hug them so tight because you cannot wait to see your best friend become a mom. You support them with love (and tell them how absolutely gorgeous they look even with swollen feet) and help plan their beautiful baby showers. Then support them with homemade meals, hugs, encouragement, and promises to come over and listen to the baby monitor so new mama can finally take the shower and two minutes of rest she desperately needs. You put on your brightest smile then go back home,
People have a hard time understanding how you can be SO incredibly happy for them, and still struggle with the fact that it is not your time for that season in life.
Let’s be real here, dating in 2016 SUCKS. “Ghosting” is a real thing (I know from experience), and most guys just want one thing. I still cringe when people say they sometimes wish they could still date, because of how fun it is. When you meet the right person, it is fun to date! But when you meet frog after frog, it is incredibly discouraging. Going home to a husband who loved you enough to marry you (even when it does not seem like it) sounds a lot more fun than going out on a date with someone and having them tell belittle and beat you down because of your faith or because they think you “eat a lot for a first date”.
It’s rough out there, y’all!
But I KNOW that good things come to those who wait. & that sometimes God wants us to do other things with our lives before committing to our soulmate forever and becoming moms. He loves ALL of his girls: the single, the married, the divorced, the separated, and the widowed. I know in my heart that he does not hold anything back from those who love him, and that when it is the right time, he will give us the desires of our hearts.
We may have to kiss a lot of frogs, make a lot of mistakes, be a “Maid of Honor” instead of “Matron of Honor” for a few more times, and sleep soundly throughout the night for a few more years, but our times will come to be wives & mamas.
So let us enjoy the seasons of life God has placed us in. We have to remember that it is ALL for a beautiful reason. ❤
With love from a “Miss”,